Spiders are ubiquitous. Miracles of adaptation, which ensures their species’ survival, they’ve managed to conquer and colonize all manner of environments except the two poles. We’ve been taught to fear them, yet they are amazingly talented, mostly harmless, and help to maintain balance in a world that would otherwise be overrun by insects. Instead of being afraid of them, there is much we can learn: principally, how to get what we want.

Spiders are master hunters. Some throw webs on their prey, ambush hunt, or stalk their prey like a cat does a mouse. But those most familiar to us spin a web and wait for their prey to effortlessly come to them.

Unlike other animals that have to find their construction materials in their environment, a spider’s resources are within them, inside their very body. Silk is truly a magical material, fine and delicate (fibers that are 30 times thinner than a human hair), yet it can hold the weight of the spider as well as the high impact of flying insects.

Spider webs are an engineering marvel. They come in a number of sophisticated forms and to spin them is a complex and carefully choreographed operation. Their shapes are not random. Spiders build webs specifically to withstand certain conditions, such as wind. If winds are so strong that the spider risks losing its silk, it will take down the web by eating it and recycling the proteins so that it can use them again for building another web. They generally destroy and rebuild webs once or twice each day.

Most spiders have eight eyes but they cannot see very well, therefore they perceive their external environment mainly through vibrations. They have sensory organs all over their legs that can detect sound, as well as two “feelers” at the sides of the mouth. Their entire communication system relies upon sounds and vibrations that are inaudible to the human ear. These senses can help them in many ways, such as detecting predators or communicating with a potential mate.

What can we learn from the spider?

1.Rely upon your own inner resources.

Whether you realize it or not, you always have access to resources within you that can help you create what you want and attract what you need. You are not at the mercy of external circumstances and can in fact be the weaver of your own destiny, the master of your own fate. So long as you think that what’s outside of you runs the show, you may blindly react to the cues of others. But when you navigate with your own internal compass, you can break away from the Pavlovian response cycle and choose to forge a new path, a new destiny.


  • Creativity
  • Strategic
  • Patient
  • Industrious
  • Self-Reliant
  • Resourceful
  • Inuitive
  • Attractive


  • The ability to be soft and vulnerable yet strong enough to take a hit.
  • The discernment to know when to go after what you want vs. knowing when to allow things to happen.


  • Entrapment
  • Entanglement
  • Self-Destruction
  • Self-Sabotage
  • Deception
  • Illusion

2. Let things come to you.

The world we live in teaches us to take things by force, but fails to realize that going with the flow often produces superior results. Allowing what you want and need to come to you requires a few things: trust, surrender, and patience. Of course there is a method to this. In order to attract what you truly want, you have to create a space/place for it. And this space, “your web,” must be strong and aligned with your values and authentic self. Otherwise, you may end up catching what, in reality, you don’t really want. Or even worse, you may find yourself entangled in your own web of self-sabotage and illusion. It’s also important to have the discernment to know what opportunities should be seized, and to have the patience to wait for something better.

3. Create a new story.

You can weave a story, get stuck in it, and find your home covered in old cobwebs. But there will come a time when you need to clean up your perspective. Sweep and burn away the stories that clutter your mind and space. Instead of getting tangled up in ideas, focus on your creative energy to write a new story for yourself. You are the weaver of your life and dreams.


1. Go outside and sit in nature. Close your eyes and use your “spider senses” to discover a new idea, thought, or feeling.
2. Choose a “web” of your life that is not longer attracting what you want. This could be a belief system, a job, a relationship, etc. Destroy it, bit by bit, and make plans to rebuild something more aligned with your authentic self and what you want.

3. What false stories have you created for yourself? Or what false stories have others written for you? Write them all down, rip them up or burn them, and discard. Then, sit down and create a completely new story for yourself. Then, live it.